This question was posted by Marcia, "I have been a birthmom in reunion for 5 years, only the first year being "good". My daughter is non-communicative and my question is how often should I send friendly emails or cards trying to let her know I am not going anywhere and will be here for her when she decides (hopefully) to pick up the pace of reunion?"
I think that nudges need to be spaced out depending on how long the reunion has had to develop. Also, there are no clear cut rules here, so the personalities and the reason for the "pull back" have to be taken into consideration. If the person pulling back is very timid it would be easy to overwhelm them with too many nudges causing them to possibly feel extremely pressured. If the person pulling back is generally a self assured individual who has been lacking confidence in this one area more frequent nudges might be more appropriate.
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