MT has posed a question about sending a birthday card to her birth daughter on what would have been her birth daughter's due date. They have had almost no contact except for a few very brief exchanges over the last couple of years. MT has proposed this, " The card from me would simply say, "(Name), I'm sending this on your original due date, March 21st. Both the 21st and the 5th are days I never forget. I hope you have a wonderful birthday, I'm thinking of you."
MT - I think that sending a birthday card is perfectly okay. Your daughter has never told you NOT to contact her and you have not made a habit of making contact more than a few times a year. What you are proposing writing is thoughtful, intimate and warm. It is not pushy, as you are not asking her for anything. It is not overwhelming as you are not sharing your feelings, difficult as I know they must be.
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