Adoption Reunion Support

My Mom Can't Cope

Months ago I published a success story in my newsletter about a young woman who sent her birthfather a letter. Actually she sent him a letter and got no response.  Then she worked with me and we put together a second letter which resulted in him contacting her in just three days!  It was a very happy time.

Things between she and her "biodad" (as he calls himself) have been steadily progressing and despite living on opposite coasts they are forming a good relationship.  As she prepared to meet him for the first time she felt it was important to be open with her family (she was raised by her birthmother and adopted by her birthmother's husband).  The reaction that she received was not what she had hoped for....

Setting Limits

Sally wrote to me about a situation she is having with her 30 year old birthson who has moved into her home. To say that things are stressful would be a huge understatement. Her concerns cover issues such as: cleanliness, helpfulness, physical threats, laziness, and a victim mentality.  She came to me asking how she should deal with the fact that her birthson is not living up to the "agreement" they made when he moved in.

Our first discussion related to her motivations for allowing him to move in in the first place. Her reasons seemed to boil down to a simple answer when all was said, explained, hashed out and pondered upon....

QUESTIONS NEEDED!

Please use the comment button immediately below this post to submit any questions you may have.  I will answer them soon so check back frequently!

Too Many Emotions

We all go through it... the flood of emotion. I am sure that you have felt it too.... powerful surges of emotion so strong that they knock you off your feet, kick you in the gut, make your head spin, steal your sleep and if you are lucky from time to time - pull you up to Cloud 9.

I receive a lot of correspondence from people asking if these overwhelming emotions are normal. "Oh God yes!"  is always my answer.  In fact, based on my experience, if you aren't feeling overwhelming emotions you aren't participating in your search or reunion!  This is simply one of the rare events in a person's life that can completely change their priorities, at least for a while.

But how do you cope?