Adoption Reunion Support

Emotional Overwhelm Survey

I am working on an idea for a tool to help us all deal with Emotional Overwhelm.  I would truly appreciate if if I could get your feedback!  Please click here to go to a short 10 question survey.  Thanks tons!

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Oh, How We Judge...

This post is in relation to the post immediately below, but I think it requires its own entry.

When reunions start out often there are wonderful hopes, dreams and visions.  People want to have the "family they never did".  They want everyone to get along and it seems completely reasonable that compromise in some ways will happen easily - since everyone understands the situation is unique and may require a little extra effort.

Sometimes however this doesn't happen.  When REALITY comes crashing down on the dream of "happily ever after" it makes the unique situation of a newly formed family sound an awful lot like

Adoptees who reject Birth-Siblings

Lisa submitted a post addressing a situation she has with her birthsibling.  Lisa is a "kept" child who found her relinquished birth sister.  The reunion has had its ups and downs with the adoptee displaying some inconsistent behavior.  The adoptee acts as if she wants to be treated better than the kept children by the birth mother and wants control over the reunion in terms of contact and tone.

Lisa, I want to start out by commending you for taking the initiative of finding your sister.  I really think that is wonderful!  In your post you mentioned that when you found her she was in her mid 20's.  Sometimes the mid 20's can be a turbulent time as people are trying to find themselves, finish school, start a career, find a mate and maybe start a family.  There can be a lot going on!  But, that said it doesn't explain away some of her behaviors.